It was so difficult for me that when I started coaching a very fine group of 5-8th grade cheerleaders on a whim, I felt like I was stepping back into my 8th grade year and my internal anxiety was through the roof.
Who really wants to walk back into middle school?
No one, ever.
I have a theory that middle school is hard because we desperately want one of two things:
To be noticed or to be not noticed. Or the third option…a little bit of both.
In middle school we don’t know our desires, as girls, as budding women, or as people, but as we grow we begin to identify them more clearly.
We want to be loved.
We want to know we’re valued, worthwhile.
We want to feel safe, physically, emotionally, and relationally.
There’s probably more, but I think those are the big three, particularly for girls.
Some thing weird happens too, sometimes we have no idea where to find them. We start searching, searching, and searching some more…we look every where, but we mostly look at men to tell us, what only God can –
We are loved.
We are valued.
We are safely held by Him for eternity.
A few months ago, I wrote this article for Concordia Publishing House –
It’s about our deepest desires, the problem of sin, the struggle of Satan trying to hide what is good from us, and the weight of expectations in relationships.
As the months passed, I wanted to hash all this out a bit more; to understand why my wild, young, and rebellious heart looked everywhere but to God for fulfillment in this life, and why it’s a struggle still today.
Why do I so often want a man to fill me, when I know good and well that only God can?
You’ll find a few of the answers I found here, in this new podcast episode: Dear Girls, He is Not Your Savior.
It present 5 things I think we’re searching for, a few good questions for evaluating our expectations in our relationships, and also offers encouragement, whether you’re single, married, young, old, wild, or tame – to run to God, run. He’s already got you anyway.
You are loved by Him.
You are valued by Him.
You are safe in His arms.
I’d love to hear from you. Tell me your experiences, your thoughts, or send your questions. We’re all figuring our this life together, led, and fully filled up by our Savior.